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Does Being Authentic Make You Vulnerable?

Hello all - I first posted this in September of 2011.  I think it deserves revisiting.  

Its an interesting question to be sure.  Recently I had a conversation with a friend who asked "Scott.... when you become authentic, don't you open yourself up for being taken advantage of?  Don't you make yourself more vulnerable?" 

I thought for a minute before answering.  I remembered the many times in my life that I "opened myself up."  I remembered the times I chose to say "Gee, I don't know the answer to that," or "You know, I just don't feel I can do what you are asking me to do" and the many other times I chose to stop pretending that I had all the answers or would do anything I was asked if it made the person asking like me in the process.  

After some thought I answered my friends question this way... "Well, let's think about that.... how would it feel to have the weight of having to be the expert, having to have all the answers, having to live up to an expectation that you have created for yourself lifted from your shoulders?  How would it feel to allow yourself to just be you for once, regardless of what others felt?  How would it feel to follow your inner voice, your inner flame, your inner spirit each and every day for the rest of your life?

My friend thought for a moment and replied, "Scott, that would be wonderful, that's how I feel when I am communicating with the people I love the most - my kids, my wife, my Mom and Dad......"

Friends, my point is simple:  we are at our best when we follow our inner voice and live our lives in a truly authentic way.  Being authentic is the first of three steps I outline in my book, Live Your Passion.  It is a very empowering way to live, helping us to become free from the pressures we often unknowingly place on ourselves.

Until next time, be well......

~ Scott