I identify the "principle of choice" as the important gift that each of has, and can exercise to make positive changes in our lives. In this context, I am referring to choice as “your ability to make decisions by looking at life as a series of individual choices leading you in a specific direction.” The word direction is an important consideration. In Live Your Passion, I use the “road to happiness” as a metaphor; I make the point that discovering your authentic self is an important first step and a way to avoid a turn onto “victim lane.” The road to happiness also represents a journey in a direction – the direction towards happiness.
So you'll need to start by identifying what in your life needs to change. If you are unclear, the best way to do this is to take an inventory - develop a clear picture of your values and beliefs, strengths and weaknesses, likes, dislikes, and what you would like your life to "be about," often referred to as your personal mission (if this all seems daunting, there are a number of exercises in Live Your Passion that guide you through this process). Using this new insight ask yourself: “In what area of my life would I like to see change happen first?” Or, said another way, where are you experiencing the most “pain”? The answer to this question will help you get a clearer picture of where to begin.
While all of this is generally easy for people to understand intellectually, I often wonder why it is so difficult for so many to make good choices and pick the best options in life. Perhaps the answer, in part, is that people don’t always recognize that they have so much control over their outcomes. They often let life happen to them rather than make it happen for them. If life is 100% choice, we as individuals have enormous power over our lives and circumstances. Think about it – at one extreme, we even hold the power to choose to live or not to live. While it’s true that most of us don’t see the alternative to life as a realistic (or desirable) choice, it is our choice none-the-less. Looking at life and choice from that perspective is healthy and will serve as a very good starting place for most people.
The difference between good choices and bad choices is to a large extent subjective. What is “good” for you may not be “good” for me or another person and so on. Deciding what’s good for you is a subjective decision based on your life circumstances and the work you have done earlier (clarifying your values, beliefs, strengths and so on). So think carefully and take the necessary time as you explore life's many options!
Thanks for reading. Until next time - be well, and live your passion!